Let People LIKE things

So I'm sitting here listening to music that I like but also remember that people from my past that I don't like and weren't very nice to me liked. And then almost switched to listening to something else. And then I was like. NO! Lots of people like this music because it is good music and the band is popular. I am my own person and can like things too. I hate that I would have let someone who doesn't even deserve my brain power to think about them taint some really good music. Like imagine if I had changed the song?! That would be giving them power over me and my thoughts and my actions and my musical choices years, literally years after the fact. And that is not cool and I, myself cannot let myself do that to myself. It is true and I can totally see how things can become associating with people, times, places, events, etc. that may bring up unsavory memories and feelings and that that can be totally painful to experience. But I think that by letting it effect you and getting through felling what feelings a song or a smell or a picture can bring up and then choosing to dismiss it and like it anyways because it is a DMAN GOOD SONG is way more powerful than any thing that could ever have an association to something bad. So don't let others hold you back from liking things that you like! By listening to THAT song, or eating at THAT restaurant you are reclaiming your life and your memories and experiences from your own instead of letting someone else hold this power over you that they literally don't deserve. So dismiss them. Hold open the door for them and let them leave. They are not welcome here anymore and you should not allow them to stay.

Another thing about liking what you like- I know a lot of people make fun of "basic white girls" for liking "basic" things. Like yoga leggings and Starbucks. Well you know what? Leggings are comfortable and Starbucks is yummy so you are literally hating on people for liking things that are yummy and comfy and I don't know what kind of terrible person you are for hating yummy, cozy things. Things are popular and well liked for a reason. It is not a bad thing to like what you like and be proud for it. So what if a have a black VW Jetta with a white monogram decal on the back window?! It is a really good car, affordable for my family and I think the monogram is pretty and I like my name and it makes my car easy to distinguish from all of the other black jettas owned by sensible college girls. So people that make fun of me for having such a predictable white college girl car, can sush. Because they are making fun of me for being, safe on the road, financially responsible, practical and into my own name? Who sounds like a bad guy now?! huh?

One last note on making fun of people liking things- Just because I or anyone else in the whole world likes things that are popular or also well liked, what makes you think that you can assume you know everything about me. How dare you reduce my personhood to what I wear, what I drink, and what type of car I drive. I am so much more than that and do not wish to be around people who make fun of me for liking things.

-Abigail