Making Your Own Fun // Halloween

For Halloween, I had a lot of trouble figuring out what to do. All of the local events I could find were either for families with little kids, things like not so spooky trunk or treating and fall festivals, or over the top parties with themes like "So Sexy It's Scary". My boyfriend and I aren't into parties and neither of us drink so there wasn't really much for us to go do.

I run into this problem a lot actually. We seem to be a demographic all of our own in a weird in between area.

I have had this problem for a lot of my life and it has taken me a little while to get comfortable with not fitting into a certain category.

Sometimes I think, wouldn't it just be so much easier to want to dress up and go out to a bar for my 21st birthday? Wouldn't it just be easy to want to do the things that you are "supposed" to do for holidays? I guess it would be easier, but it wouldn't be any fun. And it wouldn't be me. I would be so uncomfortable at a Halloween house party with lots of people all dressed up, you have no idea! So uncomfortable! For Halloween we carved a pumpkin, and dressed up as Dany and Sandy from the end of Grease. We didn't go anywhere dressed up, but we just enjoyed getting ready and took fun pictures in character.

It is easy to get feeling down about yourself for not being into things you should be into. And I struggled with feeling okay about what I liked doing and how I spend my time a lot. What has really helped is taking time to figure out what I like doing and then keep doing that. Seems simple right? Do the things you like to do and don't do the things you don't want to do. Duh, Abigail. But it is a hard thing to do even though it seems so simple.

Another thing that has helped me is finally finding people that like the same things I like do and don't like doing the things I don't like doing. Okay that's confusing. Translation- I have found my people! The ones that like to stay in and watch scary movies on Halloween instead of dragging me to a party. And not just on Halloween. But at all times! When you find the people or person that you click with then you can make your own fun! And then everything you do fun. Even if it isn't what is "supposed" to be fun.

-Abigail